February 21, 2018

Love or Infatuation

I’ve been carrying this article around from Ann Landers’s column for many years…..

Infatuation is instant desire.  It is one set of glands calling to another.  Love is friendship that has caught fire.  It take root and grows—one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of  insecurity.  You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.  There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely.  It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection.  It is real.  It gives you strength and grows beyond you—to bolster your beloved.  You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away.  Miles do not separate you.  You want him nearer.  But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.

Infatuation says, “We must get married right away.  I can’t risk losing him.”

Love says, “Be patient.  Don’t panic.  He is yours.  Plan your future with confidence.”

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement.  If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one anothers company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy.  Love is the maturation of friendship.  You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence.  When he’s away, you wonder if he’s cheating.  Sometimes you even check.

Love means trust.  You are calm, secure and unthreatened.  He feels that trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you’ll regret later, but love never will.

Love is an upper.  It makes you look up.  It makes you think up.  It makes you a better person than you were before.

A New Way To Love

Here you will find an explanation of the way our experience of love is shifting here on planet earth.  These two videos are from Steve Rother’s Virtual Light Broadcasts in which he channels The Group.

September, 2008.  From Steve:

The second topic of this message was about a new level of communication that was now possible to achieve for all of us. They called it “Deep Contact” and although it is based on verbal and sensory communication, it is a very deep level of trust and understanding of another human. They likened this level of communication to the achievement of “Timeless Love” which they say can now be achieved with many people in your daily life. They say that people who achieve Deep Contact are so much in love that they do not “need” each other.

When there are no restrictions to your own energy field you are free to let another person all the way inside your heart. That is the most intimate two souls can get in physical form. Particularly for those from the Clan of Beauty, this has been very difficult in the past. To achieve Deep Contact there must be no fear or restrictive energy. Even the fear of judgment or the fear of what others think of you can block the attainment of Deep Contact. All of your energy must be focused outwardly to fearlessly shine your own light (beauty) so that you may see an accurate reflection of yourself in the soul of your partner. It is now possible on much deeper levels than ever before. They say it is a level of deep communication we can attain with many people in our lives, not just lovers. From the groups perspective it means letting select other people openly see all of your soul and all of your beauty. Are you ready for Deep Contact?



December, 2008.  From Steve:

In this message the group expanded greatly on an idea they introduced a couple of months back. Deep Contact is a new level of communication that has not been commonly available to humans before. When developed, this soul level communication can lead to the experience of Timeless Love which has been a very rare experience up to this point.

As a part of the explanation the group brings up a point they previously addressed; when you see another persons soul you fall in love. In the days ahead of us we will all become more transparent as the veil thins. This will lead to an experience of Deep Contact where two people could fall in love very quickly. It is easy to see the adjustments that will be ahead for all of us if as the group suggested it may be possible to fall in love twice on your way to work in the morning. The main point is that what you are falling in love with is your own reflection in that person. It is the attachments and expectations on relationships along with BS (Belief Systems) that limit what could be an incredible deep, beautiful and non threatening interaction with another soul pretending to be a human. In learning to live with these new attributes it can be said that each of us is learning to fall in love with ourselves.

Have a great holiday. Big hugs to all!



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